PART II
If
things are perceived as a power struggle, then (Mick's) automatically gonna
go against (anything I propose), 'cause it's my idea. But to me it's no
power struggle... But I mean, I'm not fautless either. A lot of this perceived
struggle is down to me because of the whole thing I went through in the
70s. Dope and getting busted and all that. Mick took an awful lot on his
shoulders. I never realized he actually got used to it. I left him to deal
with all the business, where before we used to work very closely together
on it. Then, when I cleaned up and said, Hey, I'm ready to help out
again, he saw it as if he'd have to give up something that he had actually
enjoyed wielding, not seeing that I had only temporarily forfeited the
right to get involved. So that's probably the basic of what we're going
through.
I managed to make the gigs and write some
songs but, yes, Mick took care of everything through most of the 70s. The
cat worked his butt off. He covered my ass. I feel I owe Mick. This is
why I get mad at him. When I did clean up my act in '77 - OK, now I'm
ready to shoulder the burden again. God bless you for taking it all on
your shoulders when I was out there playing the freaked out artist and
getting busted. He supported me every fucking bit of the way. I ain't
knocking the cat at all. But when I came back, I didn't want to believe
that Mick was enjoying the burden. He could now control the whole thing;
it became a power trip. I've heard the shit from the john, like, I wish
he was a junkie again.
Sometimes Keith will argue just to be different
than Mick. When Keith's got a point he's very convincing, but sometimes
it's just to create a bit of friction. And that friction helps them creatively.
It's all done in humour anyway. It's like a childhood joke that nobody
takes seriously. They fought a lot during (the making of Emotional Rescue)
because Keith thought Mick was getting his way too much, and Keith had
to fight for what he believed. Keith fights for his half of the Glimmer
Twins.
It was about the time of the album Emotional
Rescue (1979-80) when it suddenly became him and me. I don't understand
how it got like that. Mick waited until he was 3000 miles away and just
sent a telex, saying, I'm not going on the road. I mean, he could
have told me this, in person, two days earlier, before he flew away!
There's always been periods (of tension) with
Mick and I. But there's always the opposite periods of total cooperation
and good will, almost religious fervor as regards one another.
It's
a unique and beautiful thing to see people who are associated in a business
like THIS remain as close as they are. They're very strong people who have
a whole lot of common ground. They're two peas in a pod underneath, which
is where it counts.
Living their own lives, the band don't really
communicate with each other. Although there's friction between Mick and
Keith it never reaches a point where... Friction saves people boiling up
into one big explosion, holding a grudge. Everyone airs their views to
each other's FACE rather than sending it through someone else. That's pretty
uncommon in groups. Usually they don't tell the person they want to speak
out.
The only thing Mick and I disagree about IS
the band, the music and what we do.
If (Mick) was to(tour) without the Stones.
I mean, it would be one thing to say he don't want to go out on the road...
But if he was to say he don't want to go out with the Stones and goes out
with Schmuck and Ball's band instead?... I'll slit his fuckin' throat.
The trouble is Keith wants to run the band
single-handed... Keith and I disagree about almost everything. I could
see it ending in a fight between us onstage in front of thousands.
I
respect (Keith), and I feel a lot of affection for him, and I feel protective.
He's the kind of person who... well, he has a certain vulnerability. He's
had a lot of hard times. He's had a lot of GOOD times (laughs). We've had
a lot of fun and a lot of heartache together... I think everyone in the
Stones is going to benefit from the fact that we're all doing different
things for a while. And it won't be quite so insidiously incestuous...
I played (Mick my solo) album, but he talked
all the way through it. The only time I got any insight from him was when
I went to take a pee. I come out of the john and he's dancing around the
room. For a minute I watch him, and he's just enjoying it. So I went back
into the john and slammed the door and walked out again, and he's just
sitting on the couch. But that's Mick. I know the bloke. I guess I saw
him liking it when he didn't know I was looking. So that's cool.
I yelled at Mick a couple weeks ago but I
was sick at the time and I did apologize to him. Yelling wasn't necessary.
But he still makes me mad, his attitude. The Stones spent a lot of time
building up integrity, as much as you can get in the music industry. And
I got the very definite impression that the way Mick handled (his solo
career) really jeopardized all that. But if the Stones can get back together,
I think that can be rectified, for want of a better word. I've known him
for 40 years and our fights are on many different levels, not just about
who runs the Stones, blah blah blah. It's more to do with knowing somebody
for so long, and you get to a point where you think a mate of yours is
screwing up and you try to tell him because that's what friends are for.
Cause everybody else said, Yes, Mick, yes, Mick, so many times...
You think you're semi-divine out there, semi-divine when you come offstage,
and in the limousine, and on the plane. Eventually, you think you're semi-devine,
period. So that's one of the things we go through.
You don't think (our relationship) puzzles
me? Our difference is that we can't get divorced. Even if Mick and I never
did another stroke of work together in our lives, we'd still have to live
with each other just on a business level, we'd still have to face each
other... I'll always be his friend... but to me... You see, Michael, he
doesn't put as much store by friendship and loyalty as I do. To me, one
of the best things you can get out of life is to have friends. If you can
count more friends than you've got fingers, then you're really lucky. Luckily,
I can start on my toes. And I don't know if Mick can. I don't know if Mick
can fill a hand.
I just ignored all that crap (we said about
each other in the papers). I didn't see any point in rehashing it. I thought
we should just get on with it. You know, English people are like that.
They carry on, stiff upper lip.
The biggest problem I have with Mick is, I
say, I'm the only one who will scream at you and get emotional, and
that's what puts you off me.
In
retrospect now... Mick and I and the rest of the Stones had been in that
pressure cooker too long. The fight, whatever it was about, was almost
inconsequential. We'd just been in that thing too long. If you're working
with the Stones (points to a world map dotted with dozens of locations
of Stones shows) - well, that's a year. And then it stops and then you
do nothing. And that's what the Stones had to live with from the early
70s until the middle 80s: constant work for a year and a half, and then
nothing for two years. And that stopping and starting was fraying. That
was the underlying force of what all of that shit was about. It could have
been about women or solo records or quitting smoking or any other thing,
but it had to happen... It's never pleasant. It's like a family - it's
Mick and me have a row, except it's on the front pages. It's like you have
an argument with your old lady, and the next day you read about it. And
then the press are winding you up - guys going, Well, he said that,
so you're like conducting this fight publicly, and it should be a private
little matter. In any other circumstances it would be. It's just a family
squabble, not soap opera shit. Forget about it. It's not really that important.
It's bullshit, except that we have to do it in the full glare of publicity,
which turns it into another thing. Because then you've got to take your
stance because they've forced you into corners.
(To say I'm the heart of the band and Mick
is the calculating businessman is) as much a simplification of our relationship
as saying he writes the lyrics and I write the music. It's a handy pigeonhole,
and from the outside, it would seem that way. And Mick is very calculating
- he is very much into business. He doesn't have to be. He just likes to
be... In actual fact, we work very well together on a business level, because
he's on it day by day. If anything comes up and a decision has to be made,
that's when we come together. And usually we're very quick, when it's obvious
what has to be done... I like to take care of business quickly. Mick likes
to get involved. That's the big difference. When it comes to business,
Mick and I are probably more in agreement than on most other subjects.
(When it comes to business, i)t's a mom-and-pop
operation. (laughs) Mick is the mom and I'm the pop, and then we have these
offspring that need feeding.
Mick doesn't like the idea of a gang. He always
likes to feel that he's independent. But he's one of us. And he's never
going to escape. Mick and I couldn't even get divorced if we wanted to.
We could shed our old ladies - maybe. But Mick and I would still have to
meet each other.
(Writing s)ongs induce friendship, because
when you're working on something, you're just into that. And that brings
you closer together. Mick and I are still getting used to actually enjoying
working together again... He's starting to appreciate the basic comforts
of comradeship again, and that's great. I mean, it's a good feeling right
now.
(We've never come to blows but) we've got
other ways to fuck each other up. Mind games. Evil shit. I'm not sure that
in a band, the physical solves problems. The band don't last long like
that.
(Working on songs together does create a spirit
of friendship.) When you work with someone, you have a relationship with
WORKING with them, which is different than the people you might go out
with, hang out with. You know, people who are just there for a good time.
It's a different relationship, because there's to be an end to it. There's
some reason for it. And that creates a different camaraderie than just
going out to a bar, which has no
real end apart from having a good time until you say goodnight, and so
on. So at the end of the working relationship, there's something to show
for it.
They're as close now as they were when they were kids.
Keith and I are very good friends. Not only
friends, but we WORK together as well. We may have arguments, but our friendship
continues.
We have a very good relationship at the moment. But it's a different relationship to what we had when we were 5 and different to what we had when we were 20 and a different relationship than when we were 30. We see each other every day, talk to each other every day, play every day. But it's not the same as when we were 20 and shared rooms.
(Laughs) Well, it depends what you mean by
slept together. I should imagine we've crashed out together on many occasions...
No, we've never had sex with each other. (Laughs) I never fancied bum.
At least not male bum. I might have accidentally slipped into a couple
of females... Second hole down from the back of the neck, son. That's the
one you want.
It's a true friendship when you can bash somebody
over the head and not be told, You're not my friend anymore. That's
a true friendship. You put up with each other's bitching. People will think
we're having these huge arguments and say, Oh, will they split up? He's
my wife. And he'll say the same thing about me: Yeah, he's my wife.
You're not trapped. We were friends before we were in a band, so
it's more complicated, but I don't see it as a marriage. They're quite
different, a band and a marriage.
I don't know if it's some sort of inner competition, maybe that's
the chemistry that keeps us going. The fact is we're totally different
people, but we're attracted to each other at the same time, and there's
also the recognition that we can't get divorced. Even if we said I never
want to see you again, we'd be meeting in an office somewhere to divide
up the babies. That would be really lousy, and who would want to do that?
They're like brothers: always opposite, always agreeing. But you
better not get between them. Because they'll agree with each other, and
you'll be left on your own (laughs).
Absolutely. It's a very deep one. The fact that we squabble is proof
of it. It goes back to the fact that I'm an only child. He's one of the
few people I know from my childhood. He is a brother. And you know what
brothers are like, especially ones who work together. In a way, we need
to provoke each other, to find out the gaps and see if we're onboard together.
No, (we're not brothers). Keith's an only child so he would gravitate
to having that kind of relationship with people, with many other people.
I think he has other friends that - also Ronnie he looks upon... I think
that when you're an only child you tend to search for your sibling that
you didn't have. Well I have a younger brother so I don't really - I know
what it's like (laughs) to have a brother, so I don't really need to look
for substitutes... I think that when you've known people for a very, very
long time you don't really have a lot to hide from them... You can't hide
your feelings and so on, you can't try and change the way - you just are
what you are and they know you very well.
People always say things like that. But I have a brother,
you know? My relationship with my brother is a brotherly relationship,
and it's nothing at all like my relationship with Keith, which is more
like someone you work with, completely different. With a brother, you
have parents in common. You have families in common. We don't have
that, Keith and I. We work together. It's nothing to do with it being a
brotherly relationship. I suppose if you didn't have a brother you
might say that it was like being a brother. But being in a band is
another kind of relationship... (I)f you work with someone for that
long, it makes a lot of bonds, it makes a lot of memories and things
you can relate to from your past. Oftentimes, when you have long
relationships with people, you have reference points that you can
evoke, if you wish. You have relationships with everyone in the band,
and then also you have relationships with people in the periphery of
the band, so it's a very large kind of group. But it isn't a family.
Keith has his own personality and he likes to make his own noise.
I think Keith feels it's mandatory to keep his image by doing that. We
have a pretty mature relationship. Otherwise we wouldn't be working almost
every day together. We agree on just about everything.
Many times we wanted to kill each other, or at least cause some
serious damage. But it's always about details, never about fundamentals.
An album cover - You can't do that! It's quite silly, really. I've known
the man since he as 4... and I was 3! Our kids have all grown up around
each other - the Jaggers and the Richards. All of that has made us patriarchs.
It's kind
of weird. If you're working with Mick in a room, it's great fun. It's just
getting to those moments when it IS cool. We're like quarrelsome brothers.
It's sibling rivalry, without having the same parents. Mick and I spent
so many years living in the same room.And you have all the baggage that
goes with life: women and babies. It's amazing that we're still working
togeher and liking it, that we can still put up with each other.
Keith and I have a very complicated relationship. I don't pretend
to understand it. I find it quite tricky. He is a very inward person and
he was always a very quiet and meditative type of person, so to bring out
what he really wants to say is, I think, quite a problem for him sometimes.
I'm a very outgoing person and very gregarious. Keith isn't, really, although
he's learned to be somewhat more gregarious than he used to be.
There's this perception that Mick and I are always fighting. Most
of it is very smooth sailing. Every time we stumble across the odd spat,
everyone hears about it.
The vibe is a lot better. Mick and I are looking at each other and
going Oh, come on. I'm not going to argue about this. There are
too many pluses for an odd minus to get in the way. Maybe it's called growing
up?
(O)nce Mick and I get into making a record, we get very into it.
We forget who we are, even. When Mick and I work, we really do work,
and all the personality shit sort of goes out the window.
All of this Richards and Jagger fighting stuff; sure we have some
spats, but who hasn't? Have you had a brother that long? So of course we're
gonna have fights, but they get blown out of all proportion. I think we're
over all that sort of shit right now. Michael is a very, very closed chapter
and I let him keep the book closed unless he wants to open up. I love to
work with him whenever he wants to work. I'd never provoke him, but at
the same time... what are you going to do with a guy like that? I guess
the secret is that we all leave each other a certain amount of space. We're
used to each other's foibles, and we can live with them.